Sticks and Stones

When I was young and insulted, I would sing, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me! That self-protective retort was used on those unfortunate occasions where somebody’s words had actually hurt me. The rhyme is a great tool that can help children differentiate between physical and emotional harm. It’s wonderful to…

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Confidence In Insecurity

You can learn self-confidence through positive affirmations. You can intentionally tell yourself that you are smart, wise, attractive, and anything else that contradicts habitual fears, insecurities, and negative self-opinions. Thinking good things to counteract bad thoughts is a good strategy and a part of a healthy mindfulness practice. Although effective, sending a good thought after…

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Controlling Anger

To control anger you have to pay attention to anger. It is a hard emotion to control because when it arises it takes over your mind, cutting off your reasoning ability and pushing you into angry action. Angry action is generally destructive action, so a big part of controlling anger is controlling what we do…

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Choose To Be Happy

You can never trust a happy person who says, “choose to be happy”. You certainly can’t trust an unhappy person who says, “choose to be happy”. We all know that if we were asked to check a ballot to choose our next emotion, we would universally check the box next to happy over misery. It…

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Home Base

When I was young, I used to play tag. Tag is a game where one person is “it” and everybody else is not “it”. The object for “it” is to touch somebody who is not “it” and then they become “it” and “it” becomes not “it”. Home base is a place where even if “it”…

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Upstairs Neighbor

A friend of mine, who lives in a Brooklyn apartment, used to wake up in the middle of the night because of a noisy upstairs neighbor. When the neighbor moved out, he still woke up in the night. It turns out it was his thoughts that were waking him up. Even if it was the…

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World Gone Sane

We are creatures of habit. Young children, who have no sense of time, find great comfort in their routines. As older people, our routines become much more complicated. Instead of finding comfort in the simple routine of going to bed after brushing our teeth, our routines become much more intricate. Our routines must include doing…

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